Seriously. Everytime I get my eyebrows waxed I feel like I look 5-10 lbs skinnier than I did before. I used to fight the eyebrow wax. Ask Shmizz. She once plucked my eyebrows in the Newark airport at like 4 in the morning. I used to be completely anti-wax.
Then a guy said something. Yeah I'm that girl. If a girl says something I think, whatever, but if a guy says it I think...hmmmm...if it will make me hotter...
Obviously that was before marriage and child. It was actually my future husband (now current husband if you're not following) that said it to me and thus began the waxing.
I do not keep up with it as I should. With N, and A traveling when do I have time? I mean I know it doesn't take long but I can't leave N at home alone no matter how long it is and I think it would be a little distracting to bring him with me. I'm not sure they would like that. Even it if is just the Thai ladies down the road.
However I got here, I'll fully admit that now, I love a good eyebrow wax. It really does make me feel more put together. So how did I find the time? Well, that's a whole other story....
Today is Good Friday. My company was open today. My daycare was not. Neither A nor I realized this until a few weeks ago. Neither of us could take the day off either. So we called my MIL. Luckily, Good Friday isn't a big day for catering so she and my FIL managed to secure the whole day off. Then she asked if she could pick N up and bring him back to NJ for the day to hang out with them, instead of being in the house. I said yes. Then sat there as the anxiety started creeping in....
So I love my MIL and FIL. It's not them necessarily. It's just the whole situation. With A traveling and not knowing anyone in the area I am ridiculously attached to my son. I'm am protective and I worry too much about other people watching him. I'm aware of the issue. He doesn't get to spend a ton of time with them and I worry...do they know how to deal with it when he hits or kicks...will he freak out since he doesn't know them so well...will he be ok in NJ ( I mean, regardless of who he's with, it's NJ...do I really want to subject him to that?) ... I knew I needed to let go which is why even if I could have I decided not find an excuse for N not to go to NJ. I need time to myself. N will be blessed to have time with his Grandparents. I need to just know that and let the anxiety go.
So I let it go...and got a pedicure and an eyebrow wax (after work) as an appetizer to my haircut tomorrow (which I hired a babysitter for). Slowly but surely I'm reaching a balance between me and mommy me. It's necessary for my survival and for N's. But so hard. I think it would be a little bit easier if we had people in the area. You can learn to let go in a safe, family environment :-). Whether my theory is true or not here I am. Enjoying some peace on a Friday night.
And the MIL is going to be back here at 8:45 with the kiddo....peace is always short lived :)
**NOTE: I realize this is kind of random but it's totally me. So there.
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