So we were talking to the pediatrician, Dr. G. She mentioned that as soon as he starts pulling up we need to make sure to lower the crib all the way. I said, he's already starting to do that and the crib was already lowered, then I asked if we needed to take the bumper out as well. She looked at me like I was beating my child and said, "You should NOT have a bumper in there now. Yes, take it out immediately" Now, I know that we were being rebels when we put the bumper back in but we talked to alot of people about it. N was waking up multiple times in the night when we didn't have the bumper in just because he was hitting his head or getting his arms or feet stuck. We decided that since N could roll over both ways and had really good neck strength that we would put it in and it made our lives alot better. I even talked to A's cousin who is a doctor in NJ and she said that it wasn't a big deal since he could roll both ways. I did NOT expect my pedi to jump on me about this! There were a few other things she mentioned, she asked if he was sleeping through the night, I said he gets up once around 1 am, usually hungry. She said, at 6 months he's probably not hungry, it's just habit, that we should let him cry it out. She also talked about not starting puffs or anything solid like the teething biscuits until he was 9 months old (too late, he likes the puffs!). Which, I know isn't medically mandated, you should really do things as your child is ready, not by their age. So I felt like she was giving more parenting advice than anything. A takes everything she says as gospel. That because she has an MD she knows what is best for N. We disagree on that. I think that when it comes to medical needs, allergies, etc. she does know best. All children are different though and it is up to the parents to what they know is best for their kids. I don't think that pediatricians should be giving parenting advice. The cry it out thing really ticked me off because now A wants to do that and I just don't believe that should be the first thing you try. We can get him to sleep through the night without CIO (I think). We just haven't been trying yet because he does honestly seem hungry when he wakes up. He doesn't fall asleep right away when he starts nursing, he usually nurses both side before falling back to sleep.
So after all this, I'm getting to the point where I just want to get out of there because the parenting advice is starting to really get to me. She tells us that his next appointment will be at 9 months and that she will not longer be there. Huh? Yeah, you read right, she will no longer be there. One of the reason we chose her was that she was younger and new to the practice so we thought she was someone that we as a family could grow with. Nope. Less than a year after joining the practice she is taking a fellowship in the Bronx. So see you later. At this point, I didn't know what to think! After that appointment I was kind of ok with it because it seemed that we disagreed on some of the parenting stuff (but since I didnt' see it as her place to give me that advice, I just overlooked it) but she has been really good at explaining stuff to us, allaying our fears etc. So here we are. Next appointment we will be seeing her replacement and deciding if we want to stick with her or choose one of the other doctors in the practice. Because that wouldn't be awkward at all if we ever needed to see here for an emergency appointment in the future...
So after all this, A and I say goodbye to the doctor and we just have to wait for the nurse to come in and give N the shots. Since A had never had to do this before, I made him be the one to hold N down while she gave him the shots. I couldn't even watch because it's so heartbreaking to see him do the silent scream. He took them pretty well though, didn't cry for too long and we were on our way out. He slept alot of the rest of that day, then was apparently a total pain the next day for the daycare ladies...another reason I appreciate them so much.
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